What do I do if I received an unwanted gift from a co-worker of the opposite sex?
I work in a corporate office building. There is an older man who works in the warehouse of our company. There have already been complaints about him and his "too-friendly" attitude. He constantly stops by my desk, he asks questions about my personal life, calls me names like "honey, my love, beauty" and so forth. I always keep a serious demeanor, apart from just greeting him (to not be rude) and answer with yes or no, never wanting to carry a long conversation with him. Sometimes if I am on the phone he will just stand in front of my desk and stare at me until I get off the phone. The thing is sometimes when he flirts with some older co-workers (women) they don't mind and this is why I think he thinks it is ok to continue this behavior. So he had casually mentioned that he was going to get me a x-mas present, and I said "No, thank you I really don't want anything" I thought I was safe because x-mas passed and he didn't bring me anything. Then today he stops by brings a present for my boss (who had previously given him a present) and then taps me on the shoulder and presents me with a really nice jewelry gift I started to say "sorry but I can't accept this" when my boss says "you can't say no!" and takes it from him and shoves it on me. Now I am left with a set of diamond and emerald earrings and necklace that I wasn't going to accept in the first place. I have two choices: 1. Tell Human Resources about him, and he might get fired due to his history or 2. Talk to him after work, give him back the gift explaining that I can't accept such an elaborate gift and hope that he doesn't do it again and get's the hint. What do I do???
Etiquette - 18 Answers
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Just tell him how you feel and return the jewelry. Let him know your husband/boyfriend wants you to return them. If that doesn't work, email me and I'll send you my address to send the jewelry to me.
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tell him its too much of a gift and you plainly cannot except it.Then you can tell him his flirting makes you uncomfortable and you want him to stop it immediatly.
3
wow that dude makes some serious cash to be buying you those items. Anyway this is a toughie indeed and my heart goes out to you. It is uncomfortable without a doubt but at the same time by accepting it shows that you are willing to take things from him. If I were you I would go to your boss show him the items he gave you and say this is totally inappropriate for this type of setting and that your BF or hubby or whomever would be very upset coming home with these personal gifts and dump the items on his desk and say "could you please take care of this for me as my boss"
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try the 2nd option first n if he doesnt stop go for the 1st one
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I would talk to him after work and explain to him the way you feel. When he sees you are serious it should solve the problem. I wouldn't be to hard on the old guy. You might be the woman of his dreams. Good luck!!!
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Definitely go for option 2. You don't want to get him fired. Kindly give him the gift back and make it clear to him that you and him can never be anything more than friends.
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Decent thing to do, without hurting him and putting a distance between you and him is to return with apologies. Say you can't accept such a gift and be firm. People like choices. If you wish you could suggest a small gift to keep him happy. This is only a tongue-in-cheek suggestion because it may encourage him and then you are really in trouble. Use your judgement on this approach. But, going to HR is not called for. If he harasses you in any way you have reason to put HR on notice of such a behaviour from an employee. Touching? Ha, march right into HR and make a written complaint. Saying a firm NO with a stern voice and not making eye contact and outright ignore will set him straight. No good mornings or wishes or how-are-you type of small talk with this guy.
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diamonds......you dont want that?! Holy hell I would take it but it's just me. When dealing with older men ...btw i think he likes you....but when dealing with them take him to the side and explain to him why you cannot accept his gift. Make up a lie....tell him you have a bf or something to that nature.
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First I would let him know that your feeling uncomfortable with his too-friendly attitude. At the same time that you mention this to him, mention it to your boss as well. This gives both of them an opportunity to address it without any consequence like being fired. If the behavior continues, then mention it to HR and note the day that you told him and your manager. But I wouldn't do it outside of work in order for HR to not be limited. That could be a loop hole that what happens outside of work, stays outside of work. It shouldn't to me, but with the way some laws are written it wouldn't surprise me. So, the next time he comes to you and it's not work related, I would mention it to him and your manager. Don't put any threats of HR in it. Just ask him to stop because it's making you uncomfortable. Then go from there. I should add, at the time that you mention it to him, give the gift back also.
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I would go cash that in for whatever money I could get for it. You already said you didn't want anything and he was intent on giving you something.
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NO HR, your second option is best, talk to him and thank him but give it back and explain you cannot and will not accept such a gift from him now or ever and your boss had no right to do that.
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You need to consult Human Resources, and document all of this with them. Not only is your co-worker's behavior way beyond inappropriate, but also that of your boss in insisting that you accept a gift you were in the process of turning down. People like this are unscrupulous and do not take hints. You have already made yourself very clear and he is harassing you by continuing to force unwanted attentions on you. And the gift sounds so expensive that it might even be stolen, in which case you could be implicated for receiving stolen property. A man who works in the warehouse can't afford "diamond and "emerald" jewelry (if in fact they are real). Be very careful here! It might be best to turn the gift in to HR, with a full description of the circumstances and be sure to get a receipt for it. You do not need to be arrested as an accessory!
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Difficult. Just don't ever allow yourself to be alone with him, ever. Not for any reason, find another co-worker if you have to work or discuss work, but don't put yourself in that situation. It can only get worse or encourage him. Don't handle this after work either.
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Take it back to his office/ desk and just place it on the desk or in his mail box. Tell him this is inappropriate. (or you can mail it to his wife...stating you can't accept this gift) WHEN HE CALLS you honey, or my love... tell him "my name is Rachel NOT HONEY!!! and keep it up. I would talk to Human Resources ... letting them know you won't take action at this time but to make a paper trail just in case in the future it escalates. DON'T EXPECT this man to "GET THE HINT" HE won't He is the type that thinks if he just keeps giving you this kind of thin you will break... and you will! good luck (this kind of guy is a pain) and your boss should never had done what they did!
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You are quite correct to refuse the gift. I suggest that you keep your conversation to the confines of your workplace - maybe during lunch with others around. You might me unsafe alone with him. If talking to him on your own does not seem to be working tell him you will have to go to human resources with the situation. The gift is just too much to be appropriate. You should also explain to your boss that you are not the type of girl to accept such a gift and then let the matter drop. If neither of these people are willing to drop things at this point, take the gift with you to human resources and explain things, telling them that you do not wish to have this held over your head at a later date and prefer to return the gift. Let them know that you have first tried to handle this yourself and what the results have been. Be proud of yourself for having the scruples you have as one can only guess what lies around the corner in a situation like this. God bless you and good luck.
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I agree with RK. HR needs to be informed. This needs to be documented. Leave your bf/husband out of the equation. This is a professioal matter and needs to be handled in a professional manner according to laws dealing with the work place. He has overstepped his boundaries. Your boss was out of line also. This needs to be reported to their supervisor. It needs to be handled immediately. It has gone on too long. Again, do not be alone with this person. The gift was over the line. Be prepared for some rough times. Know that it should be handled discreetly, but it will get out that they were reported. So be strong. Hang in there and you will find out who your friends are. If it is not handled in an immediate fashion or glossed over, you can consult an attorney to see where you stand. There isn't supposed to be any recriminations.
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Return the gift and be direct with him. Tell him, "I'm sorry, but I can't accept your gift. And I would prefer if you would please keep our relationship to a professional one only. I do not wish to include you in my private life." If he continues to bother you after that, you can speak to your boss or call Human Resources.
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Well dont get him fired. That is just rude...considering how nice he is to you. Just talk to him after work and say that you would like to keep things professional between the both of you and that you cannot except such a lavish gift because you feel bad that you cant afford something as nice for him.
Thursday, September 22, 2011
Thursday, September 15, 2011
Job Opportunities In Rochester, NY
Job Opportunities In Rochester, NY?
310 THOMPSON ROAD, APT. #122, WEBSTER, MA 01570 PHONE 508-943-0527 (HOME), 508-844-1340 (CELL) • E-MAIL SPIERSON7592@CHARTER.NET SCOTT PIERSONS OBJECTIVE To obtain a position at an industry-leading company that can utilize my acquired skills and experiences. EDUCATION 1969 - 1972Corning Community College, Corning, New York *AAS liberal arts and sciences program. 1966 – 1969 Corning Painted Post West High School, Painted Post, New York *NYS Regents, Math and Science WORK EXPERIENCE 2003 - May, 2006 Sears Holdings Corporation Putnam, CT Store manager Managing my store to maximize sales, service and profitability. Knowing my business – being aware of sales, margin and expense plans and results. *Ensuring that corporate merchandising, operations and human resource programs and directives are fully and effectively implemented. *Providing excellent customer service by establishing and sustaining high replenishment, layout and store maintenance standards. *Training associates to provide excellent customer service, maintain operating conditions, and ensure an in-stock position. *Supervising associates and delegating work effectively. *Being sales driven; ensuring execution of corporate merchandising directives including sales promotions, layouts, displays and signing. *Reviewing the stockroom area daily. Working closely with my management team to address basic overstocks and/or seasonal merchandise overstocks. *Communicating to the District Manager any merchandising or pricing opportunities in order to improve total store performance. *Visiting competition regularly to identify trends and ensure competitive pricing. *Touring the store daily with my management team; taking action on the spot to correct deficiencies. *Agreeing upon and communicating prioritized tasks. *Being obsessed with being in stock on basic, seasonal and advertised merchandise. *Overseeing the processing of purchase order receivers and invoices (in receiving and the general office), to ensure accurate procedures are followed and timely payment made. *Reviewing business results regularly with the appropriate associates in my organization; keeping them informed of sales trends, stock on hand, gross margin and controllable expenses as appropriate. *Monitoring and controlling expenses. *Finalizing the associate work schedule ensuring adequate coverage within the budget guidelines. *Ensuring the administration of and compliance with all corporate policies and programs, and all federal, state and local laws. *Inspecting and monitoring the interior and exterior of the building to ensure a safe, clean and inviting shopping/working environment. *Assisting customers with special needs. *Recruiting the best talent available to staff my store. *Ensuring my management team and hourly associates were fully trained. *Communicating all corporate objectives & policies through huddles, meetings and on an individual basis. Reviewing, distributing and delegating written directives and other mail appropriately. *Ensuring appraisals were completed and conducted on time for all associates. *Working to build an effective energized and engaged team by encouraging involvement, and empowerment among my associates. *Providing current, direct and actionable positive and corrective feedback to hourly associates; addressing performance issues consistently and effectively. *Being professional in my actions and words. Treating all fellow associates fairly, professionally and with respect. *Making a great first and lasting impression on every customer I came in contact with. 2002 - 2003 Kmart Corporation Painted Post, NY Store manager 2000 – 2002 Kmart Corporation Greece, NY Store Manager 1995 – 2000 Kmart Corporation Victor, NY Store Operations Manager Skills ____________________________________________________________________ Computer Literate Interpersonal Relationships Windows XP Professional Microsoft Office XP Excel, Power Point, and Word Public Speaking
Careers & Employment - 1 Answers
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Wow, with your credentials, I could see you being very successful in the business that I am in...Freelife International. This would be perfect for creating leverage as well as residual income. Freelife is an 11 year old, debt free company that is in excellent standing with the Better Business Bureau. They also have a cutting edge compensation plan unlike any other out there. I think you should have a look at it and let me know what you think of it, perhaps this is the break you've been looking for.
310 THOMPSON ROAD, APT. #122, WEBSTER, MA 01570 PHONE 508-943-0527 (HOME), 508-844-1340 (CELL) • E-MAIL SPIERSON7592@CHARTER.NET SCOTT PIERSONS OBJECTIVE To obtain a position at an industry-leading company that can utilize my acquired skills and experiences. EDUCATION 1969 - 1972Corning Community College, Corning, New York *AAS liberal arts and sciences program. 1966 – 1969 Corning Painted Post West High School, Painted Post, New York *NYS Regents, Math and Science WORK EXPERIENCE 2003 - May, 2006 Sears Holdings Corporation Putnam, CT Store manager Managing my store to maximize sales, service and profitability. Knowing my business – being aware of sales, margin and expense plans and results. *Ensuring that corporate merchandising, operations and human resource programs and directives are fully and effectively implemented. *Providing excellent customer service by establishing and sustaining high replenishment, layout and store maintenance standards. *Training associates to provide excellent customer service, maintain operating conditions, and ensure an in-stock position. *Supervising associates and delegating work effectively. *Being sales driven; ensuring execution of corporate merchandising directives including sales promotions, layouts, displays and signing. *Reviewing the stockroom area daily. Working closely with my management team to address basic overstocks and/or seasonal merchandise overstocks. *Communicating to the District Manager any merchandising or pricing opportunities in order to improve total store performance. *Visiting competition regularly to identify trends and ensure competitive pricing. *Touring the store daily with my management team; taking action on the spot to correct deficiencies. *Agreeing upon and communicating prioritized tasks. *Being obsessed with being in stock on basic, seasonal and advertised merchandise. *Overseeing the processing of purchase order receivers and invoices (in receiving and the general office), to ensure accurate procedures are followed and timely payment made. *Reviewing business results regularly with the appropriate associates in my organization; keeping them informed of sales trends, stock on hand, gross margin and controllable expenses as appropriate. *Monitoring and controlling expenses. *Finalizing the associate work schedule ensuring adequate coverage within the budget guidelines. *Ensuring the administration of and compliance with all corporate policies and programs, and all federal, state and local laws. *Inspecting and monitoring the interior and exterior of the building to ensure a safe, clean and inviting shopping/working environment. *Assisting customers with special needs. *Recruiting the best talent available to staff my store. *Ensuring my management team and hourly associates were fully trained. *Communicating all corporate objectives & policies through huddles, meetings and on an individual basis. Reviewing, distributing and delegating written directives and other mail appropriately. *Ensuring appraisals were completed and conducted on time for all associates. *Working to build an effective energized and engaged team by encouraging involvement, and empowerment among my associates. *Providing current, direct and actionable positive and corrective feedback to hourly associates; addressing performance issues consistently and effectively. *Being professional in my actions and words. Treating all fellow associates fairly, professionally and with respect. *Making a great first and lasting impression on every customer I came in contact with. 2002 - 2003 Kmart Corporation Painted Post, NY Store manager 2000 – 2002 Kmart Corporation Greece, NY Store Manager 1995 – 2000 Kmart Corporation Victor, NY Store Operations Manager Skills ____________________________________________________________________ Computer Literate Interpersonal Relationships Windows XP Professional Microsoft Office XP Excel, Power Point, and Word Public Speaking
Careers & Employment - 1 Answers
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Wow, with your credentials, I could see you being very successful in the business that I am in...Freelife International. This would be perfect for creating leverage as well as residual income. Freelife is an 11 year old, debt free company that is in excellent standing with the Better Business Bureau. They also have a cutting edge compensation plan unlike any other out there. I think you should have a look at it and let me know what you think of it, perhaps this is the break you've been looking for.
Thursday, September 8, 2011
Certificate Attestation for UAE, Certificate Attestation for Kuwait, Certificate Attestation for Saudi Arabia
Certificate Attestation for UAE, Certificate Attestation for Kuwait, Certificate Attestation for Saudi Arabia,
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Embassies & Consulates - 3 Answers
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You need to make up your mind first then ask for what need to be done and guide line !!!
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Embassies & Consulates - 3 Answers
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You need to make up your mind first then ask for what need to be done and guide line !!!
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Listed above are several documents & agencies used in the visa / immigration process. Get a lawyer or get comfortable using the web sites of the desired embassy. The documents presented on your behalf must be verified. Ususally the issuing agency provides some form of autentification (a stamp, watermark). If this is unacceptable, a notorial stamped / signed by a 3rd party can be witness to your statement of fact. These proceedures are required to elliminate fraud. If you would like further assistanc, contact thru my yahoo e-mail link.
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Thursday, September 1, 2011
should I call or wait
should I call or wait?
5 days ago I interviewed in Florida. I was contacted 2 hrs later and offered a job. Initial offer was $13/hr - same as what I make currently in MA. I contacted same person (Gen. Manager) 2 days later and asked if we could add some health Benefits into the offer. He told me he would look into it with human resources in the morning and could I call him back at 11am. I called and got his voicemail. He knows I'm on vacation for 3 more days. It's been 3 days since that last conversation and I'm worried they mayhave "abandoned" me. Should I check in or give it some more time? I want this job and I'm pretty sure they want me. I kind of agree with zornudo- I hope they're just checking the details for me. And I don't want to be too pesky. This all happened quickly! Terry- thanks for your answer. I'm making $13/hr with 100% paid family plan now. I hope to start at the same in Florida. I think I will call mondayt afternoon if I don't hear back by then. Just to check.
Other - Careers & Employment - 4 Answers
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just call them
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call they like seeing that people call back
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I would think that a general manager would have a lot on his plate. He's probably not ignoring you, just really busy and HE probably has not heard from HR.
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i just went thru a 15 month job search with over 35 interviews. i got to the second interview with almost all of them. to a man, they said that they would call me. i got calls from 3! if you want the job, i would call him monday am and ask him where you are in the process. all you are doing is asking for information upon which to base a decision. if you get the voice mail, ask him to leave a message on your phone (if it's private) or tell him that you will call him back about 3 pm at the end of the day. if he doesn't respond in a couple of days, you may want to try one more time. if by then he hasn't responded, you got your answer. people call it busy, i call it rude. People don't follow up with interviewees. I know you want the job but you have to set a deadline, after which you have to move on. By the way, i would wonder about a $13@hr job that didn't have health benefits. At that pay rate, it's going to be tight to afford it on your own.
5 days ago I interviewed in Florida. I was contacted 2 hrs later and offered a job. Initial offer was $13/hr - same as what I make currently in MA. I contacted same person (Gen. Manager) 2 days later and asked if we could add some health Benefits into the offer. He told me he would look into it with human resources in the morning and could I call him back at 11am. I called and got his voicemail. He knows I'm on vacation for 3 more days. It's been 3 days since that last conversation and I'm worried they mayhave "abandoned" me. Should I check in or give it some more time? I want this job and I'm pretty sure they want me. I kind of agree with zornudo- I hope they're just checking the details for me. And I don't want to be too pesky. This all happened quickly! Terry- thanks for your answer. I'm making $13/hr with 100% paid family plan now. I hope to start at the same in Florida. I think I will call mondayt afternoon if I don't hear back by then. Just to check.
Other - Careers & Employment - 4 Answers
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just call them
2
call they like seeing that people call back
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I would think that a general manager would have a lot on his plate. He's probably not ignoring you, just really busy and HE probably has not heard from HR.
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i just went thru a 15 month job search with over 35 interviews. i got to the second interview with almost all of them. to a man, they said that they would call me. i got calls from 3! if you want the job, i would call him monday am and ask him where you are in the process. all you are doing is asking for information upon which to base a decision. if you get the voice mail, ask him to leave a message on your phone (if it's private) or tell him that you will call him back about 3 pm at the end of the day. if he doesn't respond in a couple of days, you may want to try one more time. if by then he hasn't responded, you got your answer. people call it busy, i call it rude. People don't follow up with interviewees. I know you want the job but you have to set a deadline, after which you have to move on. By the way, i would wonder about a $13@hr job that didn't have health benefits. At that pay rate, it's going to be tight to afford it on your own.
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